If you want to stop smoking with EFT and wonder how to structure your progress, there is much you can learn from “Marcelle” (not her real name). Marcelle is the third among her relatives to quit using EFT. Although they quit in a more expected 2-3 sessions, her progress is over a longer period of time. And anyone who is taking longer can benefit from. Remember, your goal is to quit smoking. It is not to compete with others in how fast you can get there. What you want is the end result. Period.
Marcelle is using a gradual reduction of smoking plan. The way this works is that in every session, the EFT releases some more of the undering reasons why she smoked, and then she can reduce her smoking accordingly, with the ultimate target being zero cigarettes. EFT, as you may know, is short for Emotional Freedom Techniques. It involves bringing to the surface a little bit of the energy disruption behind a problem using words, and then letting it go, using a specialized form of acupressure. If you do not know EFT, you may well wonder what an energy disruption has to do with the will-power needed to stop smoking, or if there is such a thing as an energy disruption in the first place. To answer those questions, EFT works on the following principles:
- The cause of every negative emotion is a disruption in the body's collective energy system.
- Addictions or an addictive behavior is a symptom of underlying nervousness.
So, back to Marcelle. Her last reduction plan was 2-5 cigarettes a day. And she has stuck to it. This is permanently life throwing her two major curve balls. One was an ongoing serious problem which Marcelle has no way to control. And the other was a big challenge involving her daughter, who was mixing with the wrong crowd. Both challenges were a 10 out of 10 in intensity. Due to the severity of these issues, the technique of tap-and-talk was used. This involved tapping on her points continuously as she talked and tried to find ways to cope or deal with these two major challenges. Both challenges went down to a 2 and 4 out of 10 respectably which was the best that could be done under the circumstances. Marcelle now has a plan of action to resolve the daughter challenge, and she felt much better as a result.
The next thing treated in this session was how Marcelle felt about her husband's behavior. He was on life-saving medication for a physical condition. However, this cave has terrible mood swings. She had worked on this before, and so it was not surprising that it started at a 5 out of 10 in intensity. It soon went down to zero, in about 20 minutes of tap-and-talk, as above.
And really, that was all that happened in this 90-minute session. There was no “direct” work on any smoking desire this time. The emphasis was purely on releasing stress in Marcelle's life. At the end of the session, it was agreed to keep to the same target on the reduction plan, with one difference, emphasis on the lower end. Marcelle is going slowly but certainly in the right direction. She is also losing weight, as the stresses that lead to smoking also lead to overeating, so she is hitting two birds with one stone by going at a slow but comfortable pace. If you or someone you know have tried everything and are still smoking, I hope you have found inspiration and comfort from Marcelle's story. Go at a pace that is right for you. This could be one session or twenty. It does not matter how fast your friends or loved ones went. Go at a pace that is right for you, and then no matter what life throws, you can succeed.